Knowing what to say on a first date can be hard. But, here are some things you definitely shouldn’t say. 1. Don’t Be Rude Sometimes it isn’t what you say but how you say it which can get you in trouble. Don’t go into a first date defensive or dismissive, and don’t try to act like you’re cooler or smarter than the other person. 2. Don’t Mention Other Hookups Or Exes This should go without saying, but never bring up an ex or talk about your love life on a first date. Focus on the person in front of you and make an effort to get to know them. 3. Don’t Just Talk About You It’s nice to tell people about your interests but don't only talk about yourself. Dating involves two people, so make sure to learn about their life and what they're interested in as well.