Do you tend to keep your thoughts to yourself? There's a reason for it. If you often stay quiet instead of speaking up, overcoming the fear of using your voice will make you feel more comfortable and free. Studio 5 Relationship Contributor Dr. Matt Townsend shares what the root of the problem is. The first step is to identify what "cat got your tongue." Sometimes, someone else is the conductor of what you say. If that is the case, it's time to get serious about fixing the problem.